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which lipstick for cock sucking - 5/4/2021

i am a beginning crossdresser. i have noticed in videos, both amateur & professional, how lipstick just stays on and doesn't smear while cock sucking. what type of lipstick is this? or is it lipstick at all?

28 response(s), 34 votes
RhandaDoll 52 T
1  question
Underwear choice - 4/30/2021

What kind of underwear do you prefer for your mate to be in (hopefully briefly)!??! Please tell me why.

53 response(s), 26 votes
advent43 67 M
13  questions
Prostate Orgasm - 3/17/2021

Over the years I've become aware of men that can achieve "prostate orgasms" thru prostate stimulation only. I've attempted this with various toys specifically for this purpose without success. Any information, tips or recommendations would be appreciated.

67 response(s), 36 votes
daddysmichele 49 F
5  questions
Making time for fun - 2/17/2021

If this has been asked I'm sorry. I couldn't find it. Plus, seeing as the advice page is seriously lacking I thought I'd ask something that's been on my mind when I get a second to relax. So my question is: how do you make time in a busy schedule for yourself to do what you'd like to do? Be it just relax, or to have quiet time alone with your significant other, and not even ...

28 response(s), 28 votes
Illbcnu6996 35 M
1  question
Condoms - 2/9/2021

Anyone have experience with the condoms that numb out your cock so you can last longer?

85 response(s), 49 votes
lyavu 50 F
37  questions
BI SEXUAL - 2/4/2021

Thos has become an ongoing trend with so many having or have had a sexual relationship or attraction to the opposite sex . I have a friend who has been married to her hubby for 20 years. Marriage has been great sex outstanding. One day she abruptly left work because she wasn't feeling well . To her surprise her husband was home . So she decided to enter through the back door of the house ...

78 response(s), 64 votes
maybe1932 69 C
2  questions
post, blogs and stories - 1/19/2021

Does anyone else have a problem with missing words when you wright a story or blog.? I go back and edit it and find more missing the next day !!

32 response(s), 31 votes
netxsukr 68 M
1  question
Penile Injection - 12/23/2020

Has anyone tried penile injections?

30 response(s), 15 votes
Slipperier4Now 25 F
1  question
How do make the holidays sexy? - 12/16/2020

Tis the season to be naughty! Right? <br><br> Well, how do make the holidays sexy?

1 response(s), 0 votes
GothicPantyhose 53 F
5  questions
Censored Opinions - 12/14/2020

Have you noticed that if your post here is even mildly critical of the website, you will be "denied due to the inclusion of banned_topic"? It's a funny coincidence that, isn't it?

45 response(s), 34 votes
advntrseekers2 58 C
10  questions
Incoming instant messages - 11/28/2020

I continue to receive instant messages when I'm not on the site. Is it because I don't log out? Also, I clear the messages and they are gone but keep coming back, I'm up to 80 some, why do they keep coming back? Thanks

53 response(s), 61 votes
fruit - 11/14/2020

Whats the best sex fruit

50 response(s), 36 votes
What grabs your attention most when instant messaging someone? - 11/7/2020

Should they send you a picture first, then talk? Do you prefer the talking first? Should it be dirty or tame? What gets you to seal the deal? Does the profile picture matter? Let us guys know!

22 response(s), 18 votes
WildDude696 32 M
1  question
Why can't I cum during sex? - 11/6/2020

So I've noticed in recent times that I can't seem to orgasm during sex in recent months; now typically i've been doing breaks between jerking it whenever I have a chance for intimacy (expecting it some time beforehand) but still I struggle to get a pleasing climax during/after sex. <br><br> While it's nice for my partner who is able to benefit from this, I am literally ...

49 response(s), 22 votes
jemrdy 59 M
2  questions
Orgasm issue with partner - 11/3/2020

Have you ever had problems with a sex partner because your dick was used to the sensation it gets when you jerk off? Did you have a hard time cumming -- or a hard time adjusting to the rhythm or feel from your partner? If so, how did you get past it? I have new partner and lose erection while having sex.

32 response(s), 33 votes
seenit 54 M
1  question
New Cock Ring? - 10/18/2020

Need a new cock ring any recommendations? <br><br> Looking for a silver metal one, don't like the rubber ones. But it has to be real metal not chromed, a silver or stainless steel but they are harder to find at adult shop and don't want to use amazon. Rather go to an abs and pick it up, also a reason to go check out the booths too lol Abs is funner with a friend to shop with ...

63 response(s), 45 votes
zoomie1997 46 M
1  question
joining a 3sum - 10/15/2020

I always see folks posting that they want a 3rd to join them? has anyone actually done this? I have to admit this is a huge fantasy of mine and really would like to partake in one. What is the actual best way to go about this?

60 response(s), 50 votes
penis surgery ? - 10/13/2020

I've heard that penis enlargement surgery is not only possible now but safer and more effective and now not too much more than boob jobs ...... <br><br> can anyone enlighten me? <br><br> if it's true I think we will have alot more big cocks than before <br><br> I am happy with what I have but now and then a little stretching is good

46 response(s), 31 votes
Anal lube - 10/9/2020

"Non" natural lube vs. naturtal/organic lube? Any points?

51 response(s), 24 votes
lyavu 50 F
37  questions
VAGINISMUS... - 10/9/2020

I KNOW THIS IS NOT A BLOG SECTION. but is the most engaging part of the site .. <br><br> HAVE YOU EVER WONDERED WHY WOMEN EXPERIENCE PAIN DURING PENETRATION? <br><br> Vaginismus.. this is a condition where the vaginal muscles contract making it painful to have sex. It is normal and happens to alot of women. It is makes it hard for the vaginal muscles to relax or expand ...

33 response(s), 31 votes
lyavu 50 F
37  questions
HIGH SEX DRIVE - 9/25/2020

Hii!! i know this is something some of us have and are struggling with is to get sexual satisfaction from the partners we have.. I have had a high sex drive since my 20s and it has ruined the relationships i had. I attract great guys but sexually i never get satisfied. I ended having a sexual partner for 5yrs but he moved to philly for a job promotion. He is the only guy that could keep ...

52 response(s), 68 votes
Nerdy or more serious? - 9/18/2020

Ladies what do you like more from your partner? Someone that is more serious or someone a little more nerdy. You dont want the far end of any extreme but there is wiggle room in the middle. What do you like?

2 response(s), 0 votes
Do you let the apocalypse stop you from meeting? - 9/18/2020

Are you still meeting up with people and open for more now the apocalypse hit? I believe people can still be safe and meet. How about you?

1 response(s), 3 votes
Jay_brat 48 F
1  question
Sex after divorce??? - 9/13/2020

I am not sure my title is quite accurate. <br><br> Here is the issue...I was raised a strict Catholic. I waited until I got married to have sex. I didn't seem to have the highest sex drive either. <br><br> He left 5 years ago and we have been divorced for 2 years. I would love to get back out into the dating field and frankly I would like to not be so upright about ...

64 response(s), 41 votes
Superman4695 35 M
56  questions
Why in corona virus advisories... - 9/11/2020

is there no mention of dieting and exercise to lose weight because hypertension, diabetes, and obesity itself causes a whole host of problems beyond corona. With corona it seriously increases your chances for a bad outcome. It is hard but people should try to be healthier and loss weight and maintain better habits to achieve that goal. If you want a longer healthier life it would seem you should ...

30 response(s), 27 votes
lyavu 50 F
37  questions
AGE IS NOTHING BUTTT...... - 8/30/2020

I am writting this beacuse it seems like something very interesting. I know many of us might be experiencing it on the site. For as long i have been on here many of the younger guys approach me frequently . Some of us associate age with knowledge, experience, etc .. I once had a fling with someone younger upto almost 10yrs young and it was a blast while it lasted. Then i dated a guy 10 years ...

94 response(s), 76 votes
Wetandhard2020 57 C
4  questions
04j.com Meets - 8/24/2020

What are people's experiences of first meets and how long it has taken them to meet with suitable singles or couples? We'd like to try our first mmf or mfmf but dont seem to get passed the chatting/emailing stage. Any hints or tips, or is it one of those if it's right, it will happen? We don't want to just jump into something for the sake of the experience, we'd like it to ...

49 response(s), 43 votes
lyavu 50 F
37  questions
SCAMMERS - 8/14/2020

This has become annoying and frustrating to many of us .I have been on the site for a long time and i get asked the same question all the time. ARE YOU REAL ? i know many of us have been scammed especially men and it is sad when you have invested time in talking to someone only to findout they are a scam. My best approach normally is to ask many questions, insist on meet and greet first in a ...

78 response(s), 70 votes
jlscranton 34 M
1  question
whose going covid stir crazy - 8/8/2020

tell me how your coping with the social distancing

13 response(s), 6 votes
dangbitches 58 F
35  questions
Quesstions - 8/7/2020

Why do my questions show up on A/L then there gone after a while?

14 response(s), 29 votes