Being REAL
|
Posted:Oct 11, 2006 3:13 pm
Last Updated:Jun 4, 2007 8:19 pm
1764 Views
|
There's a huge vulnerability factor involved in swinging. It's more than just chatting online. It's more than just talking about erotic fantasies. It's more than just sharing a few drinks over dinner. Letting folks into your lives, homes, and bedrooms requires CHARACTER, TRUST, and GENUINENESS. Being REAL.
But where have all the REAL ones gone? We hunger for more than just fucking. We long for friends that call us up to take in a movie. For friends that will sit across a table and be square with you, no game playing. Folks that know how to laugh and take life easy. Folks that have relaxed enough to know there's nothing to prove in life except how many friends a man has.
There's nothing more fun than to relax with close friends, share some good laughs, and then get naked and share some erotic fun. But it takes genuine folks, couples with their heads screwed on straight, couples that can look you in the eye, and know that everyone is safe, among friends. There's no gossip to pass on, no whispering behind's folks' backs, no playing the jealousy card. It's just a strong handshake that guarantees discretion and feeling a connection between friends.
Life is a difficult journey, and we hunger for REAL friends to travel with. Whether it's watching a football game, taking a trip to Vegas, or fucking the night away, we hunger for friends that will be there thru thick and thin. They're hard to find in the world. They're hard to find in the swinging community. But if you think you've got that good old "down home" quality of being REAL, drop us a note. We'll treat you right, the way we want to be treated. We'll share some laughter, some good times, and hopefully some naked ones as well. But most of all, we'll just be REAL with you...and yes, that's the way we want to be treated.
|
|
|
1
comment
|
|
3 Types of Swingers...
|
Posted:Sep 18, 2006 3:37 pm
Last Updated:May 29, 2007 4:04 am
1673 Views
|
SWINGING...
As the name implies, swinging can be many things. This is just an attempt to express the varied meanings of the term "swinging"...
The first type of folks, i will call "freedom swingers". Visualize if you will, the freedom of floating effortlessly carried by the breeze, as if you were a at the park, "swinging" back and forth, kicking your feet higher and higher. The LIFESTYLE sometimes offers that kind of freedom, when you find folks that know how to enjoy the simple pleasures of erotic moments, with no strings attached, no issues to unload, just ecstasy in a caring and safe and fun environment. These are top-notch folks, where the connection is simple but deep. They are "real" people, and genuinely care about life, themselves, and others. We have met only a few of these folks, and they are "keepers", and we appreciate their life and energy.
Then there's the "social swingers"...a type of swinging that reminds me of a dance floor, caught up in the rhythm, carried away by the music that my feet just have to boogie along to the beat of "swing" music. This type of LIFESTYLE is driven more by a need for social interaction than for sexual exploration. It's fun and full of energy, but often deplete of any erotic intentions and personal connection. They like to be "seen" as part of the swinging community, but for numerous reasons, are not here for naked fun or sexual friendships. We find these folks all over the internet (looky-loos), that love to chat and "talk the talk", but cringe the moment you suggest anything more.
Lastly, there's what i call the "selfish swingers". This brings more of a picture of dangling from a rope, noose around your neck, "swinging" back and forth, hanging there, feeling the life being sucked out of you. Entangle by another couple's "issues", used by another couple's selfishness, frustrated by another couple's lack of compatibility, killed by another couple's lack of giving, as the effort and energy we put forth is not returned in any positive form. These folks just don't "get it", and are in fact, using swinging as a last ditch effort to save their marriage or avoid some emotional insecurity. Not a very enviable picture of the "SWINGING" LIFESTYLE, but it has been a very real scenario for us all too often.
Indeed there is a full spectrum of folks you meet in the Swinging Lifestyle, and to our surpise and frustration, it seems that the majority of folks we meet fall into the "noose" scenario (selfish swinging)...inflicting discomfort and pain because of their own relationship and insecurities. Essentially, it kills the connection. While we hunger for those special folks (freedom swingers), that know how to be polite and caring and giving and fun and sensual, they are few and far between. We have met some, and cherish their friendship, in and out of the bedroom.
Our journey has been far from perfect, but we have definitely grown in this process, as we have moved from "selfish" (immature, swinging from a noose) to "social" (just playing the field, swinging on the dance floor) to "freedom" (loving and enjoying swinging for what it is). We want to thank those who have been with us from the beginning, for enjoying the freedom of swinging together. For those that we have shown anything less to, accept our apologies, for there were times that selfishness and being social butterflies didn't allow us to experience the "freedom" of swinging that we intended to find.
So, despite our own inadequacies, and despite the frustration of not connecting with "real" folks, we continue on this journey, hoping for more of the "freedom" swingers. And we will continue our search for those special friendships, those that truly understand the connection that swinging can bring...folks that aren't afraid to laugh, that love helping their mate and the other couple) have the best time, that aren't afraid to be just the slight bit vulnerable to another couple, that enjoy the benefits of naked fun as consenting, mature adults.
If you're a "freedom" swinger, drop us a note and let's chat and see where we can take this thing. We are excited to meet you!!! If you're "social" or "selfish", at least have the courtesy to let us know where you are at, so we can adjust accordingly. We generally have high hopes and expectations for those we meet, both as friends and as lovers, but are too often disappointed because that's not where they are at. So we just ask for your honesty, none of the bullshit that folks tend to use. Just be real with us. We enjoy "new" swingers, and would be happy to help you get started because we understand many of the emotions and pitfalls of this LIFESTYLE (not just cuz we want to get in your pants!) There IS more to swinging than just fucking sex, and we intend to find those folks that aren't afraid to enjoy that type of relationship. We'd like to be "friends for life".
Hugs, K&S
|
|
|
0
Comments
|
|
To link to this blog (rm_k_stogether) use [blog rm_k_stogether] in your messages.
|
|
|
| Sun |
Mon |
Tue |
Wed |
Thu |
Fri |
Sat |
1
|
2
|
3
|
4
|
5
|
6
|
7
|
8
|
9
|
10
|
111
|
12
|
13
|
14
|
15
|
16
|
17
|
18
|
19
|
20
|
21
|
22
|
23
|
24
|
25
|
26
|
27
|
28
|
29
|
30
|
31
|
|
|
|
|
|
