Couples and single men.........
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Posted:Sep 5, 2008 1:00 pm
Last Updated:May 20, 2024 9:49 pm
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Lately I've been browsing a lot of couples' profiles and have found something that has me scratching my head.
I've found a lot of them that have in their heading that they're a "couple seeking men, women, couples" etc. But then in the body of their profile they say something like either "no single men" or "single men, we'll contact you", and/or in the compatiblity thing there's a big red X next to gender for me (in other words, no men).
If they don't want single men, then why list men in who they seek? I'm not questioning their interests... whatever anyone is seeking is no big deal. But if they don't want single men, don't put that in who they seek... that is how they show up when you do a search after all. It'll save them from unwanted emails from single men and it'll save us single men time in reading their profiles after they come up in a search for "couples seeking men".
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Sex toys for men...........
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Posted:Sep 3, 2008 12:26 pm
Last Updated:Jun 5, 2011 7:32 pm
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For years I've thought that women have a HUGE advantage over men in terms of sex toys that are available to them. At any adult toy store there are dozens upon dozens of different dildos, vibrators, and clit stimulators of every size, shape and configuration.
In contrast to the rack after rack of women's toys in most stores, there are usually one or two racks of toys for men. There seem to be about four different catagories for toys for men.
The blow up doll or molded pussy and ass. That seems silly and a waste of the high cost for those. If you're masturbating, why do you you need to pretend your fucking someone, particularly an inanimate object?
There are the penis pumps. I'm not sure if they work as a masturbation toy or just in the mistaken belief that it'll make your dick bigger. In either role, they don't appear to be worth the price.
Then there are the simple latex sleeves that fit around your dick into your hand. I don't see how that adds any more stimulation than just using your hand.
Finally, there are the few toys that have some type of sleeve for your cock with a vibrating attachment, usually one of the eggs with a control device wired to it. This is the only type that seems worth trying. (Although I think it's a bit silly that they feel the need to make the opening in the shape of a mouth, pussy or ass.)
So, in the past couple weeks I've bought two of the vibrating variety to try out. I had been reluctant to spend the money on one, but decided that since most women (at least the women here on 04j.com) have one or more toys, why shouldn't I? I used to say that my hand was better than any toy, but wanted to try something that vibrates, since that always works so well for women.
The first one I bought was a disappointment. It has rubber outer sleeve (that isn't very flexible), and inside there's a thin flexible latex inner sleeve with a vibrating egg at the tip (the best way to describe the inner sleeve is that it looks like an oversize and very thick condom). The problem with that toy is that the outer sleeve's opening isn't very big and since it doesn't stretch I could only slide my cock partway in. Even then, I could barely feel the vibrations from the egg. On top of that, the egg resting just against the very tip of my dick wasn't the best sensation for the vibrations. I did find that it works better pulling the inner sleeve all the way out and just using that and the egg alone. Not the best, but not a complete bust.
The second one I bought was a lot better, but still left a little to be desired. It's an open ended stretchy sleeve with nubs on the inside and with a vibrating egg on the base. That works pretty well... although it's so tight it took a ton of lube and a lot of effort to be able to slide into it and when I finished and pulled out there were were little marks all over my dick that looks like bruises from the nubs (although they disappeared pretty quickly).
The funny thing is that perhaps the best toy is something I used as a . It was an old fashioned massager that strapped to the back of your hand and was designed for "legit" massaging (it was my parent's after all). The vibrations went through my hand and added a lot of extra stimulation as I just jacked off with it.
You'd think that it wouldn't be that hard to design a good toy for men... especially when you consider all the creativity that went into designing all the different toys for women.
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Long Distance Flirts?????
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Posted:Sep 3, 2008 11:48 am
Last Updated:Sep 4, 2008 5:42 pm
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I've been scratching my head lately over why I've been getting so many flirts from women a LONG way away from me. I'm not talking about from the next state over or even from the opposite coast (although I have gotten a few from the east coast and California), but from overseas. Women from Africa and South America are the most prevalent. I haven't looked at all of their profiles, but several have in their caption that they're looking for something long term. Most of the women are also in the twenties to early thirties.
I don't get it. Are these women looking to become someone's "mail order bride"? If so, isn't 04j.com the wrong place to be looking for a guy interested in a LTR or marriage, particularly with someone from outside the country? Or are they phonies who are fronts for other dating sites trying to get you interested and then sending you a link to their profile elsewhere? (I've run into that problem with some "local" women as well lately.)
Whatever the reason, I'm here to meet real local women and I don't want to waste my time with women who are several hundred or thousands of miles away.
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Moving is such a pain... but this time it was worth it!
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Posted:Aug 30, 2008 12:52 pm
Last Updated:Sep 1, 2008 6:53 pm
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Like most of us, I hate to move and it’s a royal pain in the ass! But this time, when I moved in late July, it was WELL worth all of the effort.
I bought my first house, a nice and roomy 3 bedroom house in South Snohomish County and moved out of my cramped one bedroom apartment. In the month or so that I’ve been here I’ve worked hard to get settled in and things are going along very well.
I have another couch and lamp on order to be delivered next week that will finish off my nice big living room with big windows and hardwood floors. Of course, being a guy, one of the first things for the living room was mounting my new 52 inch flat screen TV over the fireplace.
My sunroom/dining room is great for hosting poker parties... I’ve already had a few and am having another tonight.
My other big “guy” thing was buying a new pool table for my family room downstairs. Boy, do I need practice! LOL
I’ve wired my stereo to have speakers in 4 rooms... the living room, pool room, sunroom and my office. I can add one more set of speakers, so if I do go for a hottub I’ll have to get outdoor speakers and wire my deck for sound.
Today, I think I’ll go check out prices and options for a hottub. I have a GREAT private spot on the patio out back that’d be perfect for a hottub.
I’m also thinking of making the small (about 8’x 10’ room next to the pool room into an adult playroom... if I get the boxes out of it that is. I’m thinking of getting a custom wall to wall mattress made, putting some oversized cushions on the floor, mounting mirrors to the wall and ceiling, getting one of those sex sling chairs to hang from the ceiling, and mounting a few attachments for restraints for those interested in some light bondage.
All in all, it’s a great “bachelor pad” and getting better all the time! I’m so happy I took my sister’s advice and forgot about the idea of buying just a condo. LOL
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04j.com Exagerations......
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Posted:May 6, 2008 12:54 am
Last Updated:Jan 9, 2012 2:03 pm
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I know that it's common for people to exagerate to some degree in their profiles here on 04j.com, but I recently came across something that was so riduculous it made me laugh and I have to share it here.
A friend sent me a copy of an 04j.com profile and profile pic of a guy who had contacted her here.
The pic was VERY impressive... assuming that was really his cock, I'd put him in the top 10-15% size range of porn actors I've seen. (She thinks that it is a real pic and not a porn still, based upon the background and that it doesn't look very professional.)
But here's the kicker that doesn't make any sense... if you really had a cock THAT big, you wouldn't have to exagerate about how big it is. And yet his profile makes some outragous claims about the size of his cock.
He claims that it's 19 inches long when soft and 23 inches long hard. To get some persepective, I got out a tape measure to see how long that'd be... 19 inches soft would hang FIVE inches below my knee and 23 inches hard would come nearly to my shoulder. As big as the cock in the pic was, it wasn't anywhere near that big. For that matter, I doubt anyone is that big. And if he were that big, why is he here on 04j.com and not starring in porn?
(He also made the even more outragous claim that his dick was 9 1/2 inches long at birth... that is unbelievable on so many levels that it doesn't even deserve comment.)
I don't get the point of making wild exagerations in profiles... particularly statements that are so unbelievable and which can be easily determined to be false.
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Erotic pics on 04j.com... two opposite views
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Posted:Dec 15, 2007 2:00 pm
Last Updated:May 20, 2024 9:49 pm
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In the past week, I came across two members with polar opposite views on erotic pics here on 04j.com.
Out of curiousity, I had clicked on the search thing for the most popular members and saw a profile for a couple with over 11,000 people in their friends network. I clicked on their profile and saw why... it was a couple on the east coast who did an hour long webcam show of them having sex every Tuesday. (I decided to hotlist them in case I felt watching their show some Tuesday night and they responding by inviting me to join their network.) It sounds like they are not into actually meeting anyone or any kind a swinging or swapping... they just want to watch and be watched on the computer.
It's not my thing to be here just to put on a show, with no interest in actually meeting others, but I know that everyone has different interests. If fucking while hundreds of people watch them online floats their boat, then go for it!
On the opposite end of the spectrum, I recently received an email back from a woman who I had contacted, that had me scratching my head. Her email read:
"Thank you for your message, but I stay away from guys who post erotic photos on their profiles."
It strikes me that she's preculding a LOT of the guys here. I haven't looked at too many guy's profiles, but from seeing guy's main pics on women's networks, it seems like a pretty high percentage of guys have a cock shot as their main pic and probably even more have at least one posted. I also don't understand how posting an erotic pic says anything about anyone that should preclude considering anyone... this is after all a sex site. I was tempted to respond to her to question that policy, but I figured there was no point to that.
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All talk and no action......
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Posted:Dec 10, 2007 8:32 pm
Last Updated:Dec 11, 2007 10:52 am
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I don’t understand why so many people are all talk and no action, particularly when it comes to group sex.
Last Saturday I went to an orgy I was invited to by my (platonic) friend F. She rented a suite at a hotel (a living room and bedroom with two beds). We met in the hotel bar for a few hours of meet and greet before going up to the room. When I arrived, there were only four other people there; F and three other guys... something between a third and half of the people F said had confirmed. My friend C got there late, after another party she went to earlier. When things started to get interesting in the room, one of the guys left. So we ended up with F and the other two guys on one bed and C and I on the other. Everyone had lots of fun, but it was hardly the orgy that everyone expected.
This is typical to the other group sex parties I’ve been to... something between one-third and one-half of the confirmed people showing up, and then at least one person leaving before the clothes came off.
I do understand why some people leave early… maybe they’re not comfortable with the situation, maybe they aren’t into any of the people there or sense that other’s aren’t into them, or maybe they just got cold feet and chickened out.
But I don’t understand why there are so many people who confirm that they’re coming and then don’t show up. I know that some things come up that change people’s plans and they can’t make it, but that shouldn’t account for that high of a percentage of no shows. Maybe the real explanation is that there are a LOT of people out there who are all talk and no action.
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Testimonial... my pet peeve!?!?!?!
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Posted:Dec 3, 2007 2:25 am
Last Updated:Aug 30, 2008 5:50 pm
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I have a real pet peeve about testimonials...
MANY times, I've seen a testimonial on a woman's profile that said something along the lines of:
"What a sexy looking woman, I'd love to meet you or I look forward to meeting you."
Huh?!?!? How is that kind of testimonial telling me anything about someone that I can't already see from reading her testimonial and looking at her pics?
I have never and never will I, write a testimonial for any woman I have not met in person... nor would I ever accept any testimonial from anyone I've never met. What would be the point to that?!? Testimonials are only helpful if they say something about someone that you'll learn about them from meeting them in the flesh.
The only reason I can see for any guy to write that type of testimonial for a woman is that she ignored his email and he hoped that giving her a public compliment might increase his chances for actually meeting her in person. What really surprises me is that I keep seeing a few different guys' names over and over on different women's profiles saying the same sort of thing... that makes me wonder if any of them have ever actually met ANY of those women in person.
The only reason I can see for any woman to accept such a testimonial is that she's so desparate for compliments that she'll accept and publish them from total strangers.
I've received several great testimonial (not all of which I've published) and written even more (not all of the women have been as into writing testimonial as I am), and ALL of them have something crucial in common... we've all met in person! In fact, with one ver notable exception, EVERY woman I've written a testimonial for or received one from has been someone I've had sex with. I don't understand why anyone would do anything different!
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An ode to three dozen in three years
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Posted:Nov 28, 2007 5:46 pm
Last Updated:Jul 30, 2008 7:50 am
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I recently passed the three year anniversary of splitting up with my ex-wife… and having “hooked up” with 36 different women in those 36 months, here’s an ode to those three dozen women, most of whom I met on 04j.com.
Jo… you were fun to meet after we met in that chatroom… your comment on our second date about living together on our second date really scared me off.
Sh… you’re my theater girl who I wrote a blog about. You’re a sexy woman and a great set of strange circumstances and coincidences… still the best story I have related to 04j.com.
Ke’e… knowing you nearly three years, you’ve become a very close friend, to the point that the friends aspect is even greater than the outstanding benefits aspect. I’m glad I helped you develop your love for playing poker.
Su… my “rebound love” after my split up. You were great fun to be with (in and out of bed) and it’s too bad things ended so poorly with us, but that proved the adage of not loaning money to a friend or lover.
He… you were a fun lover and an even better friend. After we mutually agreed to end the “benefits”, it’s too bad that we lost touch over such a trivial thing.
Kar… I had a great time meeting and playing with you, and I’m still not sure why you blew me off and never returned my calls.
Ja… the few times we got together were very fun and memorable, particularly you inviting me to my first full on orgy.
Cor… you were such great fun to hang out and play with… I really loved going dancing with you and our amazing sex. You need to slow down on getting way too serious too quickly with the several different guys since we quit hooking up.
Ho… a very fun woman with a great sense of humor and wild sexual appetite. I hope things are working out well with you in your quest for something more than casual sexual flings.
Ke’y… you’re the one woman on my list that I met in the “old fashioned” way, picking you up at a bar. Too bad (for me) that you decided to get back together with your old boyfriend.
Rho… the first woman I met through YP, but an 04j.com girl at heart. I still remember our first night when I arrived at your door with a bottle of wine and my guaranty to curl your toes with my kisses and how after 2-3 minutes of kissing you invited me to spend the night with you.
Jul… who I met on CL for a last minute New Year’s Eve date after Rho cancelled. The few times we played were great and I owe you a big thanks for introducing me to playing live poker.
Jud, Con, Ma, Den, and Da… five great women I met and played with at various parties or group sex encounters. Ju’s and De’s husbands are lucky to be married to such sexy women, but 19 year old Da really stands out, as the only woman on my list under 30.
Al (from YP)… That was a very romantic night we spent together when the storm knocked out the power while we were making out and we made love to candlelight. It’s too bad you decided to get back together with your old boyfriend.
Lo (from YP)… you were fun to go out with, but you started to get a bit too clingy, which is why things didn’t work out.
Des (the last woman from YP)… you’re a very fun, sexy woman and I hope things worked out with that other guy who had more in common with you.
Gab… you were a fun, sexy playmate. I hope things worked out for you in finding someone more into getting serious with you than me.
Gay… one of the sweetest women I’ve met and one of the most orgasmic (I wrote another blog about her). There isn’t much better than our typical dates of several rounds of great sex and gourmet meals you’d prepare. You’re one of the best friends I’ve made through 04j.com.
Mi… you’re still the only woman who I met for the first time at your door when you were naked. That was a great afternoon, but I still don’t know why you blew off our second date when I promised to meet you at my door naked.
Na, Te, and Je… the women who were great fun to play with, but were way more into BDSM than me, and as a result I wasn’t “wild” enough for any of you and we never got together again. I’m particularly disappointed that it worked that way with Je… you live so close and we got along so well in other ways.
Ba… I had fun with you and it’s too bad that I opened my mouth and inserted my foot about your implants (the subject of another blog) and we didn’t see each other again.
LeA… that was a fun, spontaneous day we spent together, followed by a great night of sex. It’s too bad that work and family made my life hectic for a while and I didn’t call you again soon enough to go out again.
Cat… it’s too bad that our one day together caught me at my worst (hung over, without enough sleep, out of caffeine and cigarettes, and with no food all day) and as a result “things” didn’t work up to specs.
Te… you seemed to get a bit too serious and clingy, so things didn’t work out, but you were fun to meet and get to know.
Vi… you were fun to hang out with, but it was too much drama and not enough sex that doomed things from working out.
Le… that was great fun playing with you and it’s too bad that you decided on quantity over quality (your words) and we stopped after 3 dates.
Pa… you have the record for the quickest from initial email to meeting (Saturday afternoon to Sunday night). When our schedules calm down we’ll get together again.
Bo… I enjoyed being your first 04j.com guy and it’s too bad you decided that casual sex wasn’t for you.
Car… you were a fun woman to meet and I’m sorry family problems caused me to end our date too soon. If you lived closer it’d be more likely that we’d get together again.
Ch… you may be the last on this list, but you are easily one of THE most fun, sexiest and all around coolest women I’ve met here (or anywhere else). I’m really looking forward to continuing to see you, especially taking you up on your offer to go to New Horizons with you some time soon.
Dishonorable Mention: My dishonorable mention award goes to the “woman” who fooled me and had a big surprise in her panties (the subject of another blog). As pissed off as I was at the time, at least it’s good for a laugh two and a half years later.
Honorable Mention: To the memorable women I didn’t sleep with who still deserve mention.
Li… that was a cool coincidence that we’d met in an chatroom and then met again on 04j.com, it’s too bad we didn’t click.
Kat… that was a shame that we were looking for different things and didn’t click, but I did enjoy being your pen pal and swapping emails for over a year.
Fr (from YP)… it’s too bad we met after you already clicked with someone else before we met. Going out dancing with you was a great workout.
Fa… it really is a shame that I’m not your type and we didn’t click sexually, but you’ve become a great friend. Your testimonial to that effect is still the only one that any woman has specifically cited as a main reason she wanted to meet me.
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Some people are better off not having sex
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Posted:Nov 6, 2007 10:22 am
Last Updated:Apr 7, 2021 6:19 pm
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Last weekend I came to the conclusion that some people are better off NOT having sex... at least until they learn more about some of the important issues that relate to sex.
I was talking with A (a 34 year old guy I play poker regularly) after an all night poker game and he was telling me about two women he met online and was chatting with. I told him about 04j.com and some of my experiences with online dating, and gave him some advice about the topic.
Eventually, the subject of STD's came up. I told him about a woman I met a few years who told me that she had herpes and had gotten it from the first guy she ever had sex with, over 20 years earlier.
A replied, "She's had herpes for that long and she's still alive?"
I just about fell over at that comment! The more I thought about A's question and his obvious lack of knowledge on such an important issue, I came to the conclusion that anyone who is that ignorant on the subject of STD's to think that herpes is life threatening, is probably better off not having sex... at least until he learns more about that topic.
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A non-believer about the cool women on 04j.com
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Posted:Nov 6, 2007 10:08 am
Last Updated:Nov 29, 2007 11:01 am
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A friend of mine is a non-believer about how cool and much fun women from 04j.com can be. I told my friend S about some of the very fun and cool women I’ve met on 04j.com and he doesn’t believe that some of the things I told him are possible. S is an early 20’s guy I play poker with sometimes.
I told S about was particularly memorable encounter with a woman I met on 04j.com... what was particularly memorable is how quickly things went with her. I had sent her an initial email on a Saturday afternoon, she replied Sunday, that evening we chatted for several hours on IM and then agreed to meet that night. I drove over to meet her for a beer, and we ended up having sex in the back seat of her minivan.
S asked where I met her and I told him about 04j.com. When he asked me if there were hot women on 04j.com I told him about G (who I met on 04j.com over a year ago). G’s an extremely multi-orgasmic woman and I told him that during the course of one date she had at least 40 to 50 orgasms, spread out over four encounters in 16 hours (the date went sex... dinner... conversation... sex... sleep... sex... rest... shower... sex).
S didn’t believe that G could cum that often and told me I was full of shit. I told him that I wasn’t claiming to be some big "stud" and that the gift of being that multi-orgasmic was hers. But S didn’t believe me... worse, he didn’t leave it at just telling me I was full of shit. He made a point of asking several other people if they believed me. For months after that night, he makes a big point to give me shit about that again and again, for months after that initial conversation.
I told G about S’s response and she offered to talk to him and set him straight. I told S that and he refused to talk with her, saying that she’d just be lying for me.
I can think of several reasons S is such a non-believer in how well things can go with women from 04j.com. Maybe S didn’t like the fact that G is old enough to be his mom and he didn’t want to believe that women her age even had sex, much less had great sex. Maybe at his age S just doesn’t have enough experience (or at least not with older women) for him to believe what some women are capable of. Maybe S just doesn’t believe that I’m capable of meeting such a cool woman and pushing the right buttons with her.
Whatever the reason for S’s skepticism, I know the truth of how cool the women on 04j.com are and how much fun they can be and how much fun they can have.
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Spellcheck anyone????
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Posted:Oct 11, 2007 6:31 pm
Last Updated:Sep 5, 2008 3:54 am
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I read an interesting comment in a profile recently that was worth a comment.
In pointing out that she was looking for an intelligent man, she said "no knuckel dragers"... and that's exactly how she spelled it.
I thought that was pretty ironic that, in looking for an intelligent man, she misspelled that comment. Since it was so obvious, I'm not sure if it was an intentional attempt at irony or a sign of her own intellectual limitations. If it's the former, I doubt most guys would pick up the humor in that and if it's the latter, perhaps she should try spellcheck to avoid showing her ignorance.
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Like Father, Like
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Posted:Sep 25, 2007 9:41 am
Last Updated:May 20, 2024 9:49 pm
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My sister and I are in the midst of the unpleasan task of moving my 87 year old dad from his apartment at a retirement community to an assisted living home. I was cleaning out his medicine cabinet when I got a surprise that made me chuckle and think "way to go dad"... he had a prescription for Viagra that was filled about a year and a half ago, when he was 85. Since there were only 3 left out of 10, I assume that he and his lady friend (in her early 90's) put at least some of them to use.
I mentioned this to a woman friend I met here and her comment was "good for him... and I see where you got your high sex drive from".
I hope that 40 years from now when I'm in my mid-80's I still have a sex drive (and someone to interested in sharing that with), but if there's any truth to the old saying of "like father, like " I probably will.
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