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Are You Pushing Your women into the Arms of Another man?
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Other comments from woman 1 One thing I have noticed is that it is all for the man. His space etc., don't we woman want our own space? I know I do. I need time to do my own thing without a man, To either clean my home, go out with my female friends, spend time on the computer, it is amazing how much I have learnt from this site. I also have enjoyed cemmenting what I have learnt by writing a comment on the articles I have read. The thing I did not like about this article is as I have already mentioned in short, why is it all to please a man. What about us ladies, don't we have the right to ask/demand/walk away if it becomes to much, something we need from our relationship, (our needs). It is not always pleasing a man to me, you become a door mat. I don't think men really appreciate door mats unless they are control freaks, and I believe this type of man likes the fight if he does'nt get his own way, so for him it is two fold, so leave him alone, unless you want to be a door mat and punching bag. In conclusion: I like my quiet times, space whatever you call it, so I can feel refreshed and ready for the next date (which I will be looking forward to much more after the break for myself). The lady who was worried about being overweight to me you looked great. You have nothing to worry about, and take my compliment as it is sent to you, with my siincere best wishes, if a man loves you he loves the package you are, the total you, your soul, mentality, and looks  goodbuddy781
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If you live together, provide him with physical space at home. A man cave is a great solution for men who need more space and want individual freedom. A man cave provides a place for a man to be around things that matter to him. To create a man cave, designate a room in the home and fill it with things that your man finds comfortable and enjoys. The downside is that in some cases a person may request space because they are not sure how to articulate that they no longer want to be in a relationship. Ask your boyfriend if he really wants to break up. When that is the case, the demise of the relationship usually occurs after the requested space. Find out if your boyfriend actually wants to be in the relationship... and save yourself some time. goodbuddy781
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Quite the conversation you got going with yourself, well done. I reckon so
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What is the best way to handle such things as replying to her texts, apologizing for hurting her and so on.. When seeking to repair a relationship you must retain your dignity. Most men find a weeping, begging, needy woman a huge turn-off, and women are no different. WoMan do not find a man who cries and pleads for them to return flattering. Instead, the majority feel awkward, embarrassed and even a little revolted. Never phone her late at night when drunk, lonely and desperate! If you were responsible for the break-up then it is up to you to make the first move. But if not, if the two of you simply had a nasty squabble about money or sex, give her a little space. Don't pester her with emails and phone calls asking her to explain "where we went wrong". If you do that, not only will you irritate her, but she will believe you are asking so as to avoid the same mistakes in your next relationship. However, do not go too far in the opposite direction. Excessive pride is fatal during a relationship split. Anyone who tells themselves "she will come crawling back when she realizes what she has lost" is unlikely to enjoy much success. The best impression to give is one of sad dignity. For example, if she sends you a sudden, unexpected text message late one night, pause before you respond. Ask yourself why she is texting. SHe may be feeling lonely and simply want someone to talk to. Do not reply with a long, gushing message about how much you miss her. But don't be cold and unfriendly either. Wait for at least twenty minutes and then text something affectionate but vague. Let her know you still have feelings for her, but make it clear that you are not prepared to be a temporary fix for her loneliness. If you were entirely to blame for the break-up, it is vital you let her know you are sincerely sorry. A drunken, tearful phone call in the early hours of Saturday morning is inappropriate. In her mind she will dismiss your apology as a lot of alcohol-fuelled nonsense. Meet her somewhere public but quiet where the two of you can relax. When you apologize, either make it from the heart or don't bother. Few things are more offensive to a proud woman than to be hurt and then apologized to in an obviously insincere manner. Take her hand, look into his eyes and, without drama or tears, softly but firmly tell her how sorry you are. Listen to what she then has to say. Don't just wait for her to finish so you can recite the little speech you have prepared. Finally, do not try to make her jealous. Flirting and even sleeping with other women is not the answer. Attempting to punish and hurt your woman this way will not be forgoitten. If she really loves you, and the two of you try again, she may find it difficult to come to terms with what you did.. goodbuddy781
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Other comments from men 4 I would hazard this: if these men are just encountering you out of the blue, and they have no preconceptions about your motivation for chatting with men online (like they haven't read on your profile that you're looking for intimate, deeply romantic discourse) and yet they just point blank start with the sex talk, and stupidly interpret your discomfort as "head games", then it's just a case of stupid men projecting their own desires onto you, with absolutely no merit or good cause for any confusion that might ensue. If you are, however, putting out there that you're looking for a way to connect sexually with a man through the internet,and a guy starts casually, and after a while works his way into that subject, and you try to sidestep it without clearly saying why you would do so (like explaining - maybe you're just not really feeling this guy, and you're humoring him to be polite) - and assuming that his tactics aren't crass or lewd, but maybe just suggestive and somewhat charming . . . then the guy has some grounds for being confused. After all, men aren't mind readers - if you are beginning to think or feel something, better to say it, because trying to use hints, or being coy - especially for a prolonged period of time - can be easily construed as "mixed messages", "confusing", "games". This happens a lot to guys, it's happened to me, and the women who do this usually have a real problem with just saying "I don't want to get with you - nice, chatting, but maybe we should stop." So instead they pretend they're feeling it when they're really not, and this lets a guy continue to spin his wheels, thinking maybe he has a shot. The real question is, what ultimately do you want to get out of the conversation? Are you looking to find someone you can meet in person and date? Or just looking to have conversations with people online? If it's the former, then expect men to pick up on that and get dizzy if you deviate from that course. If it's the latter, then you'd be keeping all of your conversations rather platonic, wouldn't you? And there'd be no reason for anything to get confusing that way, unless the guys you're talking to are just plain dumb.  goodbuddy781
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Other comments from men 3 Some have different perspectives of what mind games are .So many terminoligies of who thinks what ,, Y Can think that Z has played mind games in a reality situation ,a scenario being confused Male askes Female in a pub iff she wants a drink , both just met as strangers in pub etc ,, Male a bit of a pratt , loud, gods gift , sleasy , boring ,, then asks female iff she wants a drink ,, ( female in safe company with her friends he in his Male company } she refuses as she thinks he"s a toss pot and on the pull for anything ,, she politely refuses but gives in after his obsessive wont take no for an answer campaign .. After she has finished and bored with said person , leaves the pub with her friends ,, Male for some reason then thinks because he hasnt even been given her telephone number has been used ,, some Male logic or something Apparently she is into playing mind games rolling on the floor 😀 Moral of the story confused Always tears before bedtime  goodbuddy781
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Other comments from men 2 Complexity can be sorted out. Stupidity and incoherent compostition can't. So infinite complexity and incoherence have one thing in common: Hopelessly incomprehensibilty by man.) What I mean is that to say "women play games" is a perfect umbrella expression to say "I'm too poor, fat, ugly and old to intgerest women. At first they act interested, but eventually they retract all the promises while they were still (falsely) believing I was nice, debonair and intelligent." Men can't say that, really, can they now. So they say "women play games". To the point, completely meaningless, and everyone understands it. It's time we stood up, over our heads, and being over the overstanding, we won't be understanding to people who are in over their own heads with their lies  goodbuddy781
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Other comments from men 1 I just wanted to quote a line from an Edie Brickell song: "Philosophy... is talk on a cereal box, Religion... is a light in the fog. "Philosophy... is a walk on a slippery rock Religion... is a smile on a dog." I don't know why these four lines always make my eyes misty. I guess their power of truth. The other thing I wanted to say was the mighty ducks group photo. Oh, and that I worked as a cashier for a passenger-ferry boats company. Our name was "Ferry Docks", and I always put the name on the deposit slip for the day's take as "Ferry Dogs". Nobody ever reprimanded me for it. Maybe everyone just more interested in the money beside the deposit slip than in my budding literary creativitism  goodbuddy781
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Men claim many women online are playing mind games. They say women dodge and weave and conversations with them become confusing. Are my women folk letting my team down? Are they really as shallow to talk to like these men are saying or is this just a good pick up line? Am I the only women that feels this way or are there others also able to converse well...? I'm no bimbo and can hold down an intelligent open conversation about many topics personal or business and not easily led. It generally doesn't take me long to smell the B/S and diplomatically deal with it. I'm under the understanding that there are more single women available in world than men. If this is so and the statistics are correct, then surely men have a greater number of women to pick from than women do. Perhaps this is part of the problem... maybe the men are taking advantage of this statistic or maybe some women are feeling like they are competing with each other and are a little more fear driven than men.... or perhaps men aren't giving women enough time to thaw out before reacting????.... Hey.... just throwing possible explanations out there....??????? nothing in concrete.... If anyone out there, both men and women, can shed some light or are able to relate to what women are saying, please give me some feedback, as they really like to hear about others perception on this men and women and relating thing. Been online for just a few short weeks and have found many good men to converse with out there. When ever woman chat with men in the first few minutes... have found them to mirror my open mind and heart, so breaking the ice is done with more ease (more often than not).... perhaps this is why women getting such a gr8 response.... it may be that they live in the moment and mirror what they are dealing with in the first few minutes and that sets the pace of how the connection takes place.....................................sheeeeeeeesh.......... Woman could think about "WHY IS IT SO" all day but woman must admit, this experience have got them a little baffled and very curious for some feedback. goodbuddy781
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Other comments 2 This article is true and having failed a few relationships, I can see where I went wrong and where my partner, boyfriend went wrong. I have to say that more times than not, it has been his fault I have left a relationship, and i wonder to myself "Will I ever meet the man I really want in my life?" I am ready to accept flaws in my partner but I believe in give and take and respect. Respect tome is as important to me a love is, without respect, there is no love. I also love sex, but more than sex, I love cuddles and holding eachother and holding hands and That has been a main issue in finding someone to show his feelings! I wonder if a man can actually demonstrate these feelings without thinking of sex! Well I haven't given up on the male species yet! goodbuddy781
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Other comments 1 I know there are some very good points with why some relationships fail, I donot have a great track record myself. I grew up as a fat kid, life was hard at school and home. I grew up not letting girls know I like them as if I did they themselves would be teased so keep my feeling to myself. This way of life I took into young adult hood so when I like a lady I didn't let them know as then I didn't want to lose a friend, me thinking they would run a mile from me. Over the years there have been some truly gorgeous ladies I fell for, not just talking about there bodies here, they were so beautiful in their hearts. I just didn't let them know I liked them as I still carried the fat kid way of life with me. I am grateful for having such beautiful friends at the time. I have tho jumped in with all four feet so to speak and been married twice in life and have two divorces to go with them. I have some awesome kids a dad could ever hope for tho now still live life on my own. I feel with a lot of relationships when two people get together it is all great at the time, we think we may know each other well and in some cases this might be true. I think any relationship that is love only will not last, it need real and true friendship. I look now at it as the earth is the friendship, love is the roots of the tree, if there is a soild base of friendship for love to grow then the relationship has the best chance of living. when there is strong winds and storms, as in arguments and mis understandings if the love is held strong then the relationship will survive. If the relationship is love only then when the same storm hits it blows at the tree, any friendship, ( earth), maybe moved and even if the relationship lives it is weaken so when the next storm comes or the one after there will come a time when love is lost and if there is no real friendship to hold it together to re new love then the mighty tree falls and dies, as does the love and the relationship. If people want to help keep love strong also keep their friendship strong, I do hope to share love and life with someone again one day, and have a friendship that is just as important a long with all that goes well in a relationship. I maybe way off base with my thoughts, being single for so long now I forget what it is like to have a friend let a lone a relationship... I am not sad or lonely tho... just living life with what I have... goodbuddy781
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Another important question to ask yourself is just how committed you were. People speak freely of commitment, but the word is frequently used with little thought. If you enter into a relationship you must be determined to work on it. A relationship evolves and changes and requires attention and effort. Your partner must come first, not your career or your hobby. When people break apart claiming they wanted different things, what they usually mean is that their career, or their dreams of emigrating to a new location, meant more to them than their partner. A relationship needs to be maintained and worked on. Perhaps you enter into relationships with unrealistic expectations. You must be prepared to tolerate a great deal, everything from unpleasant smells to bad moods or poor table manners. Every relationship has its bad periods. Relationships only work when both people are committed and prepared to tolerate these bad spells. Communication is essential. Did you really understand your partner and what made her angry or disappointed? Contrary to what many believe, the strongest relationships entail a certain amount of detachment. People can quickly feel stifled or suffocated by their partner. In any relationship, not just a sexual one, it is vital to give the other person space. goodbuddy781
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Other comments 5 This should be on 'Is your lady cheating?' Since it is found time after time that more women cheat in a relationship than men do...!  goodbuddy781
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Other comments 4 You've touched on all the necessary points and finished with good advice. I replaced the genders in my mind while reading it since I won't ever be cheated on by a man. Thank you for the efforts.  goodbuddy781
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Other comments 3 Women are way bigger offenders! Interesting article I wonder which 'sex' drafted this article?  goodbuddy781
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Other comments 2 Men cheat more often than women by a mile! Where r u getting yr info? goodbuddy781
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Other comments 1 I've been cheated on by both male and female guess it's a roll of dice finding anyone else serious goodbuddy781
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It is also important to remember to come from a place of trust. Don't accuse her of infidelity. If you don't trust her, you're probably coming from a place of insecurity and nothing she says will help. Trust her, and come to her with your concerns. Talk it out. Don't treat her as an enemy – treat her as she deserves to be treated. goodbuddy781
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Instinct: It's always good to trust your gut. If you've got a bad feeling about him, you're probably right. Something is probably wrong. However, it might not necessarily be cheating. There could be something else bothering him. Instinct can usually only detect if something is amiss. It tends to miss on the details. goodbuddy781
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Spend time with your date. Often times, people rush into long-term relationships without first spending an adequate amount of time with their partner. You should never commit to a relationship with someone you do not completely know. You can avoid a bad relationship if you spend time with your partner in between date nights. If your partner has a busy schedule, be creative with ways to spend time together. If your partner makes up poor excuses why he or she can not spend time with you, reconsider the entire relationship. People who make poor excuses early in a relationship are not ready for a long-term relationship. goodbuddy781
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Other comments 1 Very good subject matter and reasons for possible conflicts. I think this article should be issued to people contemplating marriage to think about before entering marriage, and for young couples just starting out as well. These suggestions listed here are also a safe substitute for marriage counselling as well. goodbuddy781
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Whether you are newly involved with your partner or you have spent a year or more together already, you may have already had an argument together. Arguments are unavoidable, a natural result of the friction that occurs when two people with different mindsets enter into an intimate relationship. It is possible to choose your battles however, and knowing how and when to make this choice is vital to the health and longevity of your partnership. The saying goes that prevention is the best medicine, and this is just as true when it comes to the health of our social connections and relationships. By observing how you and your partner interact, you should be able to pinpoint issues that act as triggers for argument. If you live together and regularly leave the dishes piled up in the sink or neglect other household chores, changing your habits and doing your part around the house will probably lessen the friction between you and your partner. Arguments are often triggered by mundane issues such as these. Even if you're not living with your partner, there's still the possibility that you do something that annoys them when you're together. Of course, prevention doesn't always work. Some habits simply can't be broken, and there will always be at least a few issues that the two of you cannot agree upon. This is only natural. After all, you're two different people with different tastes and different ideas about the world. The fact that you're in a relationship together does not mean that you have to become one in mind. However, these differences can act as catalysts for conflict if they are not recognized and put into perspective. The best way to avoid unnecessary arguments is to create understandings regarding small issues that are likely to cause some friction in the future. Subjects like schedules, planning, and cleanliness can easily be agreed upon given the right attitude. By talking about these possible problems before they become problems, you and your partner can save the fighting for the important issues. And rest assured: there will be fighting. No long-term relationship can avoid it. By saving your energy for the really serious subjects, though, you can avoid the risk of fighting over things that are not worth the effort. If you've spent the last few months finding ways to address those issues beforehand, you and your partner will also most likely be more inclined to settle your major differences through negotiation and compromise rather than by accusations and insults. goodbuddy781
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Other comments 3 This is so deep! And yeah, it's a tough deal when your love isn't (or can't be) with you. Probably most readers here have felt this at some time. And the truth is, people don't function normally when separated from their true love, but rather under some sort of disguise of normality - a cover-up or as best they can under the circumstances. What I do is recall and keep in mind the good moments - even when you want that shoulder to cry on imagine your love is there for you. Your love resides in your heart and nobody (nor distance) can take that away. So keep it fresh, keep their memory close and love THAT they are, not where they are. As the saying goes, if it's true love, they will return to you, if it wasn't they surely never will. This may seem a bit etherial, but it is one way to cope ... doubtless, there are other ways.  goodbuddy781
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Other comments 2 i read your article, thats realy touches the depths of heart. you describe the real emotions of the heart. its realy a great article. God may bless you  goodbuddy781
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Other comments 1 in your singlehood you can find someone and be sure, not to jump in too quick, of who you want and the qualities he must have, so he'll be there for all your life, as you'll be there for all his life. True love is honest, and real, and must not be wasted on wrong person. It will be cherished by the one who values honesty and true love, and knows true faithfulness and loyalty is a must. Honesty becomes true love, and built into these two is faithfulness and loyalty, no matter what. When you know someone have these four qualities, then you can finally be a real couple. Love will grows and grows and in no time at all, your empty hole fills with true love from your self and from your love, who gives his loves to you and back and forth grows and grows and never dies. I seek these also. It's very rare. No worries  goodbuddy781
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