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Does IM work for you?  

CJDOU 59M
70 posts
9/22/2019 9:06 am
Does IM work for you?

Does IM work for you?
Yes all the time
No never
Hit and miss


CJDOU 59M
100 posts
9/22/2019 9:06 am

Kik is best I’m cjdou there


GrassLakeMike 71M
60 posts
9/22/2019 9:26 am

I never know if it will work or not. When I find someone I really want to chat with it doesn't work Grrrr


AzRedhead1 66M/65F
9 posts
9/22/2019 9:38 am

It drops conversations and locks up a lot


0v3rhere 43M

9/22/2019 9:38 am

Starts working then all of a sudden messaging stops delivering


robdoggie57 66M  
45 posts
9/22/2019 10:06 am

Very frustrating, especially when you pay for this crap!


pleaseusmymouth 27M

9/22/2019 1:39 pm

depends


jimmyyybackdoor 66M
19 posts
9/22/2019 2:32 pm

It is no longer effective for non-paying member, since the 3 free messages were taken away.


north120 49M
28 posts
9/22/2019 7:50 pm

It sucks most of the time


suzieloves3 38F

9/22/2019 7:55 pm

Seems to work fine for me but what do I know ?


MyPlayBed80x120 62M
42 posts
9/22/2019 8:16 pm

I've seen 3 versions of the IM since being on the site and each time they come out with a new version it gets worse. This latest version is totally unusable on my smartphone.


Maxbillion87 37M
49 posts
9/22/2019 11:31 pm

Only works like half the time


allnitelong2063 60M
233 posts
9/23/2019 4:25 am

It sucks all the time!


needsumluvn54 65M

9/23/2019 4:56 am

A lot of people will not answer back...very rude.

needsumluvn


6FitTallFun9 56M

9/23/2019 5:36 am

its a bit funky and wish chats were 5pts not 10


jerseygal69 30F
1 post
9/23/2019 1:51 pm

I can't send pic through the IM.


YourGoodLukCharm 64M
83 posts
9/24/2019 12:47 am

The IM over time has steadily gotten worse & each supposed upgrade is worse with less features Last upgrade we lost the ability to hover over the profile pic & it would enlarge as well as give the persons mini profile. Also they no longer tell you how many miles away the person is. I often like to scroll out about 700miles away from where I live because I own a rental house there & like to keep up with a few gals from that area. Now I might be able to scroll once, maybe twice & then it starts skipping the entire region & jumps out further. No action by 04j.com after several e-mails on this corruption. Liked it much better when you could scroll continuously at speed without having to constantly hit the "view more members" at the bottom of the page. Hard to chat with someone that's not local because of this. Hate paying points, which you seemingly can no longer earn to have a chat with someone. This site was based on interaction & now that they have tried to monetize every aspect of it, it's no longer worth the price of admission for what you get, as we have lost so many things that made the site function so much better in the past. You want me to upgrade to Gold? Why should I again when basic problems aren't fixed & so many privileges have been removed. Remember the basic tenants of a successful business, our success as basic or Gold members should guarantee your success. Screw us & your platform withers away. I would certainly like to know how a "chat" can be considered a "chat" when it's only "delivered" but not "read" by another as a chat by definition is a conversation between 2 or more people, not a one way dialogue with yourself? Anybody got an answer for that? I also feel after being a member for more than 10yrs that cell phones have ruined IM chat & etiquette because people are distracted by their devices & can't stay focused & the chat process isn't fast enough. At least we shouldn't be docked points for unanswered attempts at conversation. And on the subject of points, how the hell does one earn them anymore!? Logging in/out doesn't work. No points for commenting on blogs, videos, liking a photo. W.T.F.! Want me to be involved with the site, reward me for my efforts if you're going to have a stupid points system. I've always felt the points thing & buzzmode toys were very discrimenatory towards men as women aren't as visual & don't watch cams as often nor do the toys which cost far to much work all that well for men either. Let people cam for the fun of it, like before, not to be cam whores that are trying to make some points for money upon which the house takes a share. It's awful compared to what used to be & personally when it comes down to it I'd much rather go to a real strip club in the flesh for my money, then a virtual one. Two of the other things that I miss on this site are being able to search by zipcode which was convenient for road trips & more recently the loss in search of being able to filter out members in your area that haven't been active in more than a week or two. My area has very few actives for the IM & camming. Maybe they are still available by e-mail but you can't do that as a std. member & I also feel that if a paying member sends you an e-mail you should be able to answer it, even if you can't send e-mails out as a std. member unless once again you pay extra as a gold member to have std. contacts. If you're Gold you should be unlimited. I could go on about more things that we've lost over the years. I've had a lot of fun here, had some great dates & FWB's in that time, & am still dating a couple, but we all agree the site seems past it's prime & needs some major renovation's & house cleaning to become relevant again. It's why I've remained a std. member for so long after being gold, as there has got to be a better site with more value for the bucks I spend.


cumslut4u23 41F

9/24/2019 1:16 am

Sometimes


nu2cincy 57M
1 post
9/24/2019 3:10 am

i think 04j.com screws us daily


Ronbin32 31M

9/24/2019 4:02 am

sempre fusiona as vezes dar um problema


HFman2019 45M

9/24/2019 9:23 am

Seems like it's has it's own schedule


CJDOU 59M
100 posts
9/24/2019 3:44 pm

IS there a better site?


rm_1littlehose 61M
528 posts
9/24/2019 5:11 pm

Yup it sucks. This site sucks as a whole thanks to all the changes made.


oralslaveonly1 27M

9/24/2019 7:11 pm

mostly miss


mrquiet88 35M

9/25/2019 3:57 pm

Sometimes, but usually I doubt that the messages even go through


newtothisfu66 29M
1 post
9/25/2019 4:49 pm

Works for only a few messages. Switching to other apps works.


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