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When he doesn't understand what I am looking for, after I have laid out specifically what I am looking for...basically I told him, I am not interested, but yet, he is still coming back, that's when I am gonna throw a brick at him...yah...
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My revised due to denied response To Ms. I-Don't-Do-Out-Of-Towners, I won't get into the question about questions - BUT - the ramblingness (yeah it's a damn word now) of the of the questions, whether asked or not, to whomever (male or female or who knows whom) is in question. Lord that was born a ramblin sentence. Be that as it may (or may not). There is a fine line between pushy and determined. That line, like all lines, has 2 ends. In this case yours and his. His 3 'shots at it' may seem reasonable to him, whereas 2 'shots at it' from anyone seems to be over the line for you. Its a hard thing (pun intended) to figure out sometimes. I imagine I have crossed said line at times and at others maybe could have taken another 'shot at it'. When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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A while back I had to view a sexual harassment webinar at work. One of the things that it talked about is when asking a coworker on a date became harassment. Asking a coworker out once is not sexual harassment. Not taking no for an answer and repeatedly asking a coworker out is not sexual harassment, but it is a lesser form of harassment that should not be tolerated in the work place. If someone says no thanks be an adult about it and move on. Please don't let me be misunderstood.
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I'm going to go with a question to answer your question. lol Is the person who contacted you someone you would possibly be interested in if he was local? If so, why not at least chat with him for a bit and see what happens? Let him know...again...that your preference is for local and since he's not, it's going to take a hell of a good sell on his part to get and keep your interest. If you're dead set on local only, just block him and be done. Don't give him a chance to keep messaging. Pagan  Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!
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6/30/2021 6:43 pm |
Well, why would someone go to so much effort to publicly mock men? I am sure readers can draw their own inferences. In our culture, men are indoctrinated, and women benefit hugely from this, then women complain about the side effects. Men are told "Only losers quit" "Only girls cry" "Be a man, suck it up" "Don't take no for an answer, keep trying" When you want to insult a man, you call him a "pussy", weak. There is no corollary insult toward women. Our culture requires men to be sacrificial animals and it is bullshit. When was the last time a woman took all the risk with you, gentlemen? Expressed interest, asked you out, paid for everything, initiated the first sexual contact? Never. Women do not even remotely understand the male experience, and heap contempt upon anyone who voices it. Women don't experience the constant competition and rejection that men do. Nature arranged it this way. Nature needs only a few males to breed with the many females, to perpetuate the species. In our culture, the overwhelming majority of men are insanely fighting over an inadequate supply of pussy. There will never be enough money, popularity, muscles, house, car, status to get all the pussy you want. Never. Because there is too much competition, and, because of nature. Women whine about being betrayed by a cheating husband or boyfriend. I do not condone cheating or breaking promises. But wake up. He does not stare at the waitress ass because he wants HER instead of YOU. That is female thinking. Females sort and reject, sort and reject, then enslave one sucker to provide and protect. No, nature means he wants to fuck other women IN ADDITION to you. This is NATURAL and NORMAL but women shame this. Bottom line: CULTURE AND A HUGE PERCENTAGE OF WOMEN tell men that "You have to EARN my pussy and keep trying no matter what" You can't ask for a man with traits he had to fight for, such as money, status, looks, if you then turn around and SPIT on that trait of ambition when it is aimed in your direction. Who is John Galt?
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"""..hush RedRRR and Lonly...hush it!!! I said I'd stop asking MEN questions """"" Would anyone say she is a name dropper????? Lala...It is up to you to control this definition ... If you think he/it is getting pushy, YOU put a stop to it. It is obvious that the guy needs some comprehension of the mother language.. I would think that you being of sound mind ( did I say that) at about the hint of a third try , knowing he has not read or headed your profile , just hit the ban/out of here, button.. End of issue!!!! When I was trying, long time ago you would have said I was determined, I did not get pushy and her profile did not have as strict of wording as yours but I tried every month for over a year.. it finally worked. So glad she didn't see me as pushy.. Look close , unless you are so fixed on this narrow line.. It is up to you.. He may be your prince and he just may be another frog!!!! Stop by at lonlyforlove2 also see Lunch with Lonly , we get snow tomorrow Check my blog on New Community, "A photo of my big Pecker" also, " My Sunday afternoon with the kids'
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6/30/2021 6:47 pm |
Now, a persistent man is an asshole, but a woman who Ghosts is perfectly fine? Fuck political correctness and all that it stands for. Who is John Galt?
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6/30/2021 6:48 pm |
Whine whine whine. If she doesn't like the approaches she is getting, why not take down her profile, and instead do the WORK and take the RISK of finding men's profiles, and inviting them for engagement? Why? Because this person is totally dishonest. She never risks rejection. She wants to wallow in the pleasure of rejecting. Who is John Galt?
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Boy you sure do trigger the incels here dontcha?  Block. Don't waste your time in trying to explain again. If it happens after a second mention, bye. I'm talking about both the persistent (mosquitoes are persistent too) fella AND your new fan.
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6/30/2021 7:02 pm |
"""..hush RedRRR and Lonly...hush it!!! I said I'd stop asking MEN questions """"" Would anyone say she is a name dropper????? Lala...It is up to you to control this definition ... If you think he/it is getting pushy, YOU put a stop to it. It is obvious that the guy needs some comprehension of the mother language.. I would think that you being of sound mind ( did I say that) at about the hint of a third try , knowing he has not read or headed your profile , just hit the ban/out of here, button.. End of issue!!!! When I was trying, long time ago you would have said I was determined, I did not get pushy and her profile did not have as strict of wording as yours but I tried every month for over a year.. it finally worked. So glad she didn't see me as pushy.. Look close , unless you are so fixed on this narrow line.. It is up to you.. He may be your prince and he just may be another frog!!!! She doesn't want the inappropriate approaches to stop. She WALLOWS gleefully in being able to mock men. This is a smokescreen for the fact that she is too dishonest / lazy to simply do the work of approaching men she DOES want to interact with. Hey, I bitch about getting approached by prostitutes but at least I am reporting them and at least I am taking the initiative to contact women that don't look like prostitutes. Who is John Galt?
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I see we have patrons that just dont know you Miss Lala, Their loss of a fabulous person.. Persistence can work!!! from 2017....The Saga of the ol lonly man Stop by at lonlyforlove2 also see Lunch with Lonly , we get snow tomorrow Check my blog on New Community, "A photo of my big Pecker" also, " My Sunday afternoon with the kids'
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Well, why would someone go to so much effort to publicly mock men? I am sure readers can draw their own inferences. In our culture, men are indoctrinated, and women benefit hugely from this, then women complain about the side effects. Men are told "Only losers quit" "Only girls cry" "Be a man, suck it up" "Don't take no for an answer, keep trying" When you want to insult a man, you call him a "pussy", weak. There is no corollary insult toward women. Our culture requires men to be sacrificial animals and it is bullshit. When was the last time a woman took all the risk with you, gentlemen? Expressed interest, asked you out, paid for everything, initiated the first sexual contact? Never. Women do not even remotely understand the male experience, and heap contempt upon anyone who voices it. Women don't experience the constant competition and rejection that men do. Nature arranged it this way. Nature needs only a few males to breed with the many females, to perpetuate the species. In our culture, the overwhelming majority of men are insanely fighting over an inadequate supply of pussy. There will never be enough money, popularity, muscles, house, car, status to get all the pussy you want. Never. Because there is too much competition, and, because of nature. Women whine about being betrayed by a cheating husband or boyfriend. I do not condone cheating or breaking promises. But wake up. He does not stare at the waitress ass because he wants HER instead of YOU. That is female thinking. Females sort and reject, sort and reject, then enslave one sucker to provide and protect. No, nature means he wants to fuck other women IN ADDITION to you. This is NATURAL and NORMAL but women shame this. Bottom line: CULTURE AND A HUGE PERCENTAGE OF WOMEN tell men that "You have to EARN my pussy and keep trying no matter what" You can't ask for a man with traits he had to fight for, such as money, status, looks, if you then turn around and SPIT on that trait of ambition when it is aimed in your direction. WRONG, Wake up dude, have respect for your self if no one else. From this site I say Yes to your question It has been years back but it does happen. Get real with the world and you will see differently!!!!! Stop by at lonlyforlove2 also see Lunch with Lonly , we get snow tomorrow Check my blog on New Community, "A photo of my big Pecker" also, " My Sunday afternoon with the kids'
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lonly4love2, you are speaking common sense logic to a FEMALE. She doesn't want the inappropriate approaches to stop. She WALLOWS gleefully in being able to mock men. This is a smokescreen for the fact that she is too dishonest / lazy to simply do the work of approaching men she DOES want to interact with. Hey, I bitch about getting approached by prostitutes but at least I am reporting them and at least I am taking the initiative to contact women that don't look like prostitutes. A true classy lady, she is.. Stop by at lonlyforlove2 also see Lunch with Lonly , we get snow tomorrow Check my blog on New Community, "A photo of my big Pecker" also, " My Sunday afternoon with the kids'
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Well, why would someone go to so much effort to publicly mock men? I am sure readers can draw their own inferences. In our culture, men are indoctrinated, and women benefit hugely from this, then women complain about the side effects. Men are told "Only losers quit" "Only girls cry" "Be a man, suck it up" "Don't take no for an answer, keep trying" When you want to insult a man, you call him a "pussy", weak. There is no corollary insult toward women. Our culture requires men to be sacrificial animals and it is bullshit. When was the last time a woman took all the risk with you, gentlemen? Expressed interest, asked you out, paid for everything, initiated the first sexual contact? Never. Women do not even remotely understand the male experience, and heap contempt upon anyone who voices it. Women don't experience the constant competition and rejection that men do. Nature arranged it this way. Nature needs only a few males to breed with the many females, to perpetuate the species. In our culture, the overwhelming majority of men are insanely fighting over an inadequate supply of pussy. There will never be enough money, popularity, muscles, house, car, status to get all the pussy you want. Never. Because there is too much competition, and, because of nature. Women whine about being betrayed by a cheating husband or boyfriend. I do not condone cheating or breaking promises. But wake up. He does not stare at the waitress ass because he wants HER instead of YOU. That is female thinking. Females sort and reject, sort and reject, then enslave one sucker to provide and protect. No, nature means he wants to fuck other women IN ADDITION to you. This is NATURAL and NORMAL but women shame this. Bottom line: CULTURE AND A HUGE PERCENTAGE OF WOMEN tell men that "You have to EARN my pussy and keep trying no matter what" You can't ask for a man with traits he had to fight for, such as money, status, looks, if you then turn around and SPIT on that trait of ambition when it is aimed in your direction. On this site several times. Just because you haven't had that experience doesn't mean others haven't. If your profile is like your responses here I would doubt any woman here would approach you. Good luck with your approach. When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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6/30/2021 7:39 pm |
Ass kissing shill. Who is John Galt?
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6/30/2021 7:48 pm |
Boy you sure do trigger the incels here dontcha? Block. Don't waste your time in trying to explain again. If it happens after a second mention, bye. I'm talking about both the persistent (mosquitoes are persistent too) fella AND your new fan. Who is John Galt?
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6/30/2021 7:52 pm |
redrockrascal, neither my experiences nor your constitute a large enough sample to establish the rule. Since evidently you are either so dishonest, hasty, or weak minded not to understand, my post was addressing the general audience reader, the majority man, who will understand and concur. Who is John Galt?
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Ass kissing shill. Stop by at lonlyforlove2 also see Lunch with Lonly , we get snow tomorrow Check my blog on New Community, "A photo of my big Pecker" also, " My Sunday afternoon with the kids'
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Boy you sure do trigger the incels here dontcha? Block. Don't waste your time in trying to explain again. If it happens after a second mention, bye. I'm talking about both the persistent (mosquitoes are persistent too) fella AND your new fan.  Thoughts from the Garden...
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When was the last time a woman took all the risk with you, gentlemen? Expressed interest, asked you out, paid for everything, initiated the first sexual contact? On this site several times. Just because you haven't had that experience doesn't mean others haven't. If your profile is like your responses here I would doubt any woman here would approach you. Good luck with your approach. Stop by at lonlyforlove2 also see Lunch with Lonly , we get snow tomorrow Check my blog on New Community, "A photo of my big Pecker" also, " My Sunday afternoon with the kids'
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I did a blog a whie back asking the question where is the line between "preferences", "fetishes" and being objectified. Not just on this site but on another site, where being feiishized or objectified is not necessarily a bad thing. I came to the conclusion it's all in perception. So my answer is a non answer. Only you can determine when the line has been crossed.
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Oh La...what have we got here. Geeze I choose not to give the ole negative one any air or energy. I call it the ..response to Heathen approach... lol Ok...my opinion is : determination is when one listens, actively listens to understand NOT to formulate a response, gives it a thought or two and comes back a while later with a different approach/ angle. Like he listens to your parameters and finds a way to incorporate them and or work around them. Like he says..." ok, im off the summer let me move in with a friend there for 3 months" could we try then ? " I think that determination can be a good thing, it also speaks to the listening skills and how much effort one can put forth. Pushy is when one is intractable in their quest, over n over . No movement and not even trying for compromise~
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Guy is like a dang bearcat! 
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Persistence becomes pushy when the recipient begins to feel uncomfortable, but the rub is that point is different for each person and perhaps even each circumstance. Doing My Own Thing, on HNW I Never Knew A FUN New Olympic Sport [post 3312759] My Private Post - Tell Me ALL Your Secrets – Anything you write here is just between us
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Call it intuition but only you know when enough is enough  
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Well, why would someone go to so much effort to publicly mock men? I am sure readers can draw their own inferences. In our culture, men are indoctrinated, and women benefit hugely from this, then women complain about the side effects. Men are told "Only losers quit" "Only girls cry" "Be a man, suck it up" "Don't take no for an answer, keep trying" When you want to insult a man, you call him a "pussy", weak. There is no corollary insult toward women. Our culture requires men to be sacrificial animals and it is bullshit. When was the last time a woman took all the risk with you, gentlemen? Expressed interest, asked you out, paid for everything, initiated the first sexual contact? Never. Women do not even remotely understand the male experience, and heap contempt upon anyone who voices it. Women don't experience the constant competition and rejection that men do. Nature arranged it this way. Nature needs only a few males to breed with the many females, to perpetuate the species. In our culture, the overwhelming majority of men are insanely fighting over an inadequate supply of pussy. There will never be enough money, popularity, muscles, house, car, status to get all the pussy you want. Never. Because there is too much competition, and, because of nature. Women whine about being betrayed by a cheating husband or boyfriend. I do not condone cheating or breaking promises. But wake up. He does not stare at the waitress ass because he wants HER instead of YOU. That is female thinking. Females sort and reject, sort and reject, then enslave one sucker to provide and protect. No, nature means he wants to fuck other women IN ADDITION to you. This is NATURAL and NORMAL but women shame this. Bottom line: CULTURE AND A HUGE PERCENTAGE OF WOMEN tell men that "You have to EARN my pussy and keep trying no matter what" You can't ask for a man with traits he had to fight for, such as money, status, looks, if you then turn around and SPIT on that trait of ambition when it is aimed in your direction. I don't call men "pussy's" ...I call them wankers and if I'm seriously pissed of I might throw in an "asshole". As for men's insults to women.. well "cunt" "slag" "whore" immediately spring to mind 
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Oh La...what have we got here. Geeze I choose not to give the ole negative one any air or energy. I call it the ..response to Heathen approach... lol Ok...my opinion is : determination is when one listens, actively listens to understand NOT to formulate a response, gives it a thought or two and comes back a while later with a different approach/ angle. Like he listens to your parameters and finds a way to incorporate them and or work around them. Like he says..." ok, im off the summer let me move in with a friend there for 3 months" could we try then ? " I think that determination can be a good thing, it also speaks to the listening skills and how much effort one can put forth. Pushy is when one is intractable in their quest, over n over . No movement and not even trying for compromise~  ... and stop press .. Heathen was back a few weeks ago... well he viewed me.. so you don't really know if he is back or not ,, but he seems to have gone again!
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Oh La...what have we got here. Geeze I choose not to give the ole negative one any air or energy. I call it the ..response to Heathen approach... lol Ok...my opinion is : determination is when one listens, actively listens to understand NOT to formulate a response, gives it a thought or two and comes back a while later with a different approach/ angle. Like he listens to your parameters and finds a way to incorporate them and or work around them. Like he says..." ok, im off the summer let me move in with a friend there for 3 months" could we try then ? " I think that determination can be a good thing, it also speaks to the listening skills and how much effort one can put forth. Pushy is when one is intractable in their quest, over n over . No movement and not even trying for compromise~ 
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Well hun you have to be firm with people as some people just don't understand when we say NO or NOT INTERESTED. My hubby calls it being a nice bitch. And it's not your fault that he doesn't understand NOT INTERESTED. I say ignore him from now on and move one..I hope you enjoy your Thursday,.. Seduce the mind and see what a wonderful adventure the body will take you on.. 
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"OOOH OOOH! MAYBE he is Heathen " I was thinking that very thing since the vitriol he's spewing is very similar to what Heathen would spout. Pagan Hmmmm....I know I left that wand around here somewhere!
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I was going to say that a third message would probably be my border of where ‘determined’ crosses over into being pushy and a pain in the ass. But there have been times when I’ve continued a conversation with someone who doesn’t fit my parameters, past that point. If they have something interesting to say. There was a younger guy who I chatted with about books...but then, actually he wasn’t being pushy about meeting. I liked what jajo had to say...it definitely makes a difference if the messager is truly listening to your response and trying to address objections in a respectful way. By the way, I reached your same conclusion about the guys two hours away, a long time ago. My experience was that they always started out saying that they were willing to drive a long way, but that didn’t pan out past one or two meets.   
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Ass kissing shill.
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There is no clear answer to your question, LaLa, because someone's behavior is defined by perception; yours, his, mine, the dickhead who needed to post 412 times. He considered himself to be persistent, and you have to be persistent to get what you want in life. You clearly see him as pushy, otherwise you wouldn't have asked the question. I see him as rude. You made your feelings clear, both in your profile and via message, and he blatantly ignored them. I would have hit the block button on him after the second exchange. A smart man, who actually did get what he wanted, would have accepted your decision, then proceeded to seduce you with his words until you reversed course. And in my experience, 'Oh, come on!' rarely works.
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Holy fuck! Read your blog before I checked my own and the moron o' the day had apparently already trolled mine, too! What say you? Block the schmuck or leave him around for readers to take their best shots at him?
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Holy fuck! Read your blog before I checked my own and the moron o' the day had apparently already trolled mine, too! What say you? Block the schmuck or leave him around for readers to take their best shots at him? Stop by at lonlyforlove2 also see Lunch with Lonly , we get snow tomorrow Check my blog on New Community, "A photo of my big Pecker" also, " My Sunday afternoon with the kids'
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If he is respectful in his words, I tolerate pushyness far longer. If they are crude, I don't tolerate it period. IF, IF this guy seems like he MIGHT be someone you would like ... I MIGHT agree to meet him once. MAYBE. I completely understand you wanting someone local. OKC is big enough you should be able to find a decent local man.
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OOOH OOOH! MAYBE he is Heathen takes all kinds...yaknow ~
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Hey there, stranger. A person can be persistent if they know someone well enough to feel like their persistence could benefit both of them. However, I'm curious as to why someone who didn't really know you felt it was appropriate to be persistent. You set clear boundaries that he crossed three times so I'm going to consider his action pushy.
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Well, only you can answer what is determined or pushy. what one would see as determined, another would see as pushy. Personally, if I hear a no or a no thank you from a woman, that ends it . No need to ask again. We all have our personal boundaries and limits,
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For me I had someone here asking me out and I told him twice , I was not interested and then he started asking every time he saw. I was on chat and after I tell someone No twice that should be it, anything more that that is being too pushy. Only you can decide on how much is enough for you. Good luck The Light is shinning and she is lonely and waiting in the darkness. 
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The first “not interested” is sufficient for me to not bother a person again. 3 is exceedingly rude and not persistent. MDonson Kiik Myonguy
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If a woman tells me that she is "not interested" or "I'm not her type", I thank her for her consideration and cease pursuing her at that point. This is really simple, "NO" means "NO" for both Men and Women.
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If a woman tells me that she is "not interested" or "I'm not her type", I thank her for her consideration and cease pursuing her at that point. This is really simple, "NO" means "NO" for both Men and Women.
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oh gah! i hear ya! i am in savannah. and i get guys/ couples contact me from charleston sc. it's two hours away. maybe. but it's all back roads. i've done a SC meet before. but these days i am working a 6 day schedule. on my day off i want to roll over and maybe have a nice lunch. i do not want to drive hours for that lunch!!! and so the youngun was all like i would drive to you. but i don't host. when it's pushy is up to you. i have a few i don't reply to and constantly get messages. the ones that get me are the ones who are like "remember me?" well. i save all my messages... so if there is no message before the remember me why would i remember this person?
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Hello, I had to write the answer to this question three times because my phone isn't working and my PC is hard to manage. But I like the question and I want to answer it. The difference between persistent and pushy are clear and evident to both parties. You as the victim know when your limits are exceeded. But, the offender also feels and hears your anxiety and aggravation. Those body signals are universal. But they continue their pressure to see if the victim will back down. It's a dual of will or character. So, The moment your limit, personal space or tolerance is exceeded that is where pushy begins and the offender knows they are doing it. 𝓣𝓱𝓮 𝓸𝓷𝓵𝔂 𝓽𝓱𝓲𝓷𝓰 𝓫𝓮𝓽𝓽𝓮𝓻 𝓽𝓱𝓪𝓷 𝓼𝓮𝔁 𝓲𝓼 𝓹𝓮𝓷 𝓽𝓸 𝓹𝓪𝓹𝓮𝓻 𝓪𝓷𝓭 𝓪𝓷 𝓮𝔁𝓹𝓵𝓸𝓼𝓲𝓸𝓷 𝓸𝓯 𝓹𝓻𝓸𝓼𝓮. - 𝓙𝓸𝓼𝓮𝓹𝓱
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At what point does determination and persistence become being pushy? First time telling someone "I'm Not Interested" and reasons, is Strike One.... Second time telling them "I'm Not Interested" with detailed reasons, is Strike Two... Third time with them trying to Push the issue again, would be consider disrespecting me with crossing the line and is Strike Three...for being "Pushy".
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