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so many fakes and not enough real people...why?  

adamadam3 49M
5 posts
12/11/2007 12:19 pm
so many fakes and not enough real people...why?


tell me

wldmn1956 67M

12/11/2007 1:08 pm

I've found that most are very real, however, I have come across several "fakes".


maxthedebator 52M

1/2/2008 8:15 am

women on here are like women in the real world. Seduce them. Love them. Just because they post on this site, doesnt mean they will automatically meet you for sex.


rulookin4alikkin 62M

4/19/2008 7:54 am

HI adam. Hope you don't mind but i checked out your profile. NO I am not interested in men! Just wanted to see something. I'm a 5 year veteran on this site, so please don't think what I am saying here is to bust your chops. It isn't, just trying to help. First you need to understand what curvypassion4u said. There are a gazillion men here for every one woman. First thing is, get a picture up. No pic, the women here won't give you the time of day. Even WITH a pic that's no guarantee but it will help. Have a webcam? Microphone? Voice and video intros go over well. Oh almost forgot..you really need to be a silver or gold member here to be able to see profiles, write to a woman or do anything. You can chat but that's about it.

So you send a letter to a woman. I hope it is longer than your profile. A woman on this site can easily get 25-50 e mails a DAY from this site. Do they read every one? Don't know. But what I do know is, the ones that say something interesting are more likely to be the attention-getters. Now mind you, she hasn't even seen your profile yet. Make sure she can. There is a button that says Send a copy of your profile to recipient. Do this. If not, most women here are standard members and as such, they can't read your profile.

OK so you sent a letter and she read it. Now she goes to your profile. No pic, and just a few words. Sorry, you need more. MUCH more! You need to get their attention!
Consider these 2 sentences:

I like doing fun things."

I enjoy many different things in life such as scuba diving in the Caribbean, backpacking across Europe, and Wine tasting in Napa Valley, France, and Italy."

Which sentence do you think is going to get a woman's attention better? Do you do any of these? Anything close? What do you do? Tell them, either in your initial letter or on the profile. I tell women my interests in the first letter I send. I want them to know a LOT about me before they get to the profile. Also, there is a lot of information to fill out on a profile. Yes some of it can be left blank. Don't! Fill out everything. If a woman made it through your letter and is now at your profile, she wants to know as much as there is to know about Adam. What kind of music? Where do you want to live? What are your goals? Fill out everything! It all will help with you getting responses. Most women on this site aren't fake, they're just looking for a guy with "the right stuff."

Now if you scope out this site, you see there are thousands of women here, all colors, sizes, ages, fetishes, kinks, and areas. Writing a LOT of letters will help. I find I need to write about 15 to get one response. However, since you're 33, I don't see much point in writing to a horny 18 year old. Since you're in Chicago, not much point in writing to a woman in california..unless you plan to be there sometime soon. So pick and choose carefully, but pick and choose often. The more letters you send, the better your chances.

Now mind you, none of these..a pic, a complete profile, a very interesting letter, a gold membership, a letter-writing campaign..none of these will guarantee you anything will happen. But they'll help. Don't be discouraged, don't give up. the best thing you can do is have a very positive attitude! if you start getting negative, start getting down, start feeling like everyone is a fake on here, you're for sure setting yourself up for doom. So keep your chin up, keep writing, and best of luck to you Adam!


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