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Helping you to find the red flags!
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Helping you to find the red flags! Ok folks, I wanted to post this out there to help people realize the red flags out there when it comes to dating. "RED FLAGS?" you ask, "what are those?" Well, I will tell you. Red flags are when you to talk to someone, and that is when your 'spidey-sense', your gut tells you something is wrong with this picture. It's those instincts that people tell you to listen to warn you off from danger. Why discuss them? Because you need to listen to your gut, or more likely, that brain that is telling you something is wrong. Because most likely it is. What are some of the red flags? 1) Saying they will do something and they don't follow through. Folks, you could be a man or a woman, and you say "Hey let's talk later. Here is my number. Why don't you give me a call in about an hour and we can discuss it later?" And the person doesn't call you back. So you wait all night, and they never call. So you call them back, and ask them "Hey why didn't you call me back?" Now 9 times out of 10, it should be a legitimate answer. And it's perfectly acceptable if things get busy from time to time. But if that person says 'Oh, I forgot.' or comes up with a half assed excuse, that's a red flag. That should tell you that they do not care enough to even bother thinking about you. Or even worse, that person is busy ALL of the time. If that person is using excuse after excuse after excuse to not talk to you, even if they are legitimate, how busy do you have to be to constantly not calling you back? This means that they are blowing you off and don't want to be bothered with you. So take time to think about that one. This could also be tied into not being on time for appointments or even missing appointments with you completely. 2) Taking time to call you back or taking time to reply to your messages. This is along side the first, in which they might not be thinking of you properly or they just don't care enough to think about you, but ultimately, you could be asking a person a question, and then that person disappears for literally for minutes or more, an hour or two. Once again, 9 times out of 10, if that person does not have a legitimate answer, or they are constantly doing this...they problem is not only could they be thinking of an answer that will properly please you, but they could be texting behind someone else's back. Their partner or significant other or husband or wife without their permission to play is in fact, cheating. It's possible that he or she says they have permission to play, when in fact they are keeping things discreetly away from both you and their husband or wife. 3) Information they tell you doesn't match up/isn't consistent. This could be from telling you that they live alone one time and then say they live with their , to telling you they live in one place but their profile says another, to saying they are a blonde, yet all of their pictures are of them as a brunette. It's the little inconsistencies in which throw of tiny red flags all over the place. If they are constantly saying one thing yet their profile says another or things you've asked them before and they change their story again, they may not be telling you the full truth or outright lying to you. Pay attention to the details a person tells you! If they do not match up, something is rotten in Demark as they say. Now for little stuff, it's not an issue. For big stuff like where they live, do they have , etc...that is big stuff. 4) Not enough information. This is like #3, but instead of incorrect info, they give you almost nothing. They don't want to talk about their past, they don't want to tell you where they live, they don't want to tell you what their cell number is if you ask them, they don't want to tell you basic stuff...that is a huge red flag. Pay attention to this one folks, it's a big one. 5) Sensing a person is controlling. This one is a bit difficult to determine, but if you are with a person or talking to that person, and that person wants to dominate the conversation, is always talking about themselves, or if you want to go someplace and that person tells you that they don't feel you should be doing something...this is a huge red flag. If a person during a relationship is controlling, domineering or overbearing and makes all of your decisions for you, that is a huge thing. People need to live and share things especially if they are a couple. If one side is constantly running the show and refuses to let the other side do stuff or controlling or using manipulation to get you to do stuff, get out fast. Unless you are a totally subservient person and want that type of lifestyle, but even then, do you want to live your own life or someone else's? I am sure there are other red flags that are out there that I could mention...especially when it comes to dating or getting to know someone. What other red flags do you think need to be mentioned here? What are your red flags that stick in your head that make you think twice about a person? Post them here and let's list them all! Who can you call on to save the day? Why none other than... Agent  |
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To me I always follow my gut not what my head says . To be honest it has helped on this site
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good information!!! agree with yah...
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Pretty good list. I almost met a female blogger who flew a few red flags.  When the going gets weird, the weird turn pro. The only thing we have to fear is fear itself.
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Post your ideas for what red flags get you thinking twice about people! Who can you call on to save the day? Why none other than... Agent
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